Two friends getting fit and having fun along the way.


You are the only one that knows the battle you are going through but you choose not to share it. I find myself thinking this all the time. It’s true! No one really knows how you feel because they aren’t in your situation. So, why not share it?

Over the weekend, I was camping and walking out in the woods with my husband, kids, and a few friends. There were a group of people riding horses and were mad at the reason we were there. They felt that it was for horses only. They decided to be rude and curse us out to try to get us to leave. During all the cursing, a lady proceeded to call me a “Fat B***h!” Usually I would have shot back and said something in return but my children were present. I was not hurt by the name calling but hurt that my children had to listen to what this hateful rude woman had to say. The more I think of it, the woman tried to upset me to get her way, if she only knew my struggle.

Most people do not know but I am so insecure about my weight. It has been something I have always hated about myself. It’s not just the weight but how the weight sits on my body. I’m shaped like a pear and it’s hard to deal with most days. My clothes fit me weird and I cannot find anything to fit right. The weight makes me look pregnant. I cannot tell you the amount of times I have been asked when I was due. People don’t see the scars on my heart from all the pain I go through with my weight. I have back issues and it just intensifies them. My posture is horrible because of the weight of my extra baggage. It’s a big deal! There are so many things that go with weight issues that I just don’t even want to get into here. So many more reasons that would help others understand your struggle and make it real for them.

There have been so many things that go through my mind about how to get the weight off. Patience and time is just something you have in your mind. Being pain free because of the heaviness is much better than having all that hanging off your waist. Sure working out and eating right is on the top! But, there are only so many exercises that you can do to get rid of all the extra weight. When I first started my journey, I was against surgery and weight loss medicine because I wanted to do this on my own. There are only so many things that you can do on your own before you actually need help. I know that once I get to my goal weight, I will have to look into surgery to remove excess skin. I know a lot of people will be upset at me for it but, I am doing all of this for me. I can’t be unhappy so others can be happy with me.

Before you start to even think about making fun of another person regardless of the reason, realize they may be going through a struggle that you won’t understand. You will only make their situation a lot worse than it really is. Instead of wasting words on them, use encouraging words to lift them up! Just like the old saying, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all!”